I’m Gonna Love You…

July 3, 2007 /

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When I was a newlywed, my last year in graduate school, I remember talking to one of my classmates about the subject of marriage. I’m not sure how long he had been dating his girlfriend at the time, but he was pretty amazed at the idea of someone our age being married already.

{I was 28 at the time, which wasn’t THAT young, but when I first moved to San Francisco at 21, I had a classmate who was married, and I remember thinking the same thing.}

This classmate asked me, how do you know when it’s time to get married? My honest, true answer was that, for me, it was when I realized that I couldn’t imagine my life without Ted. I couldn’t imagine my life without being married to him. I couldn’t live my life not married to Ted, not knowing that I was going to have him on my side for the rest of my life, rooting for me, encouraging me and loving me. My life would feel empty. If the prospect of life without that special someone seems doable, and you know you’ll be just fine without them? You’ll probably be better off without them. That’s my take on it, anyway, and I’m so thankful that Ted wanted to marry me as well. We married 14 years ago today, and there have been great times, sad times, angry times, happy times, laughing times, crying times…all of the times that add up to a marriage. Happy Anniversary, sweetheart. I’m so glad we’re in this together.

Soundtrack for a marriage: Come Rain or Come Shine, Ray Charles version. I first heard this song on the TV show, Thirtysomething (remember Ellyn’s wedding?), and loved it from day one.

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