Dealbreakers
I was reading Dooce yesterday. I don’t usually read her blog, because when someone gets 400+ comments on a post about nothing at all, I get a little jealous, and I don’t want to hang with them anymore. Of course, she never knew I was hanging with her to begin with. Anyway, once in awhile, I’ll come back and check out her blog, and see what’s new in Dooceland.
On this particular day, she was talking about her friend Maggie (who is cousin to a friend of ours), another big time blogger, and how she has a book out called No One Cares What You Had for Lunch: 100 Ideas for Your Blog. Cherry talked about this same book a few weeks ago, and I’m looking forward to hearing some of the ideas that come out of it, and what she does with them. The idea that Dooce picked up on was:
“What are your relationship deal breakers? Some folks are annoyed if a date shows up ten minutes late. Others look for something weightier, like a felony record. Have you ever rejected someone over something that seems insignificant to your friends? Or do you have selective blindness for red flags?â€
To be fair, I haven’t dated in so long, it’s hard to remember what a deal breaker might be for me. I mean, Ted and I have been together since the end of 1987. I was only 21 (almost 22) at the time, so I didn’t have a TON of experience in the dating world. But, here are the deal breakers from my short time dating:
1. The guy who says, “Lately, I’ve been dating mostly fat girls. I’m not sure why. I’ve decided, hey, I’m better than that, and so I’m dating thin chicks now.” Um, not this thin chick, you asshat.
2. The guy who told me his favorite actor of all time was Tom Cruise. Even back then, that signified ‘no brains here’ to me.
3. The guy who wouldn’t believe the things that I knew to be true, because I was a female. But would believe the same things from a man. Hated that.
4. The guy, who, when we were kissing, actually said, “If you don’t leave now, you’ll have to stay the night.” Ugh. BYE!
OK, that’s not a long list, but it’s long enough. People are gross sometimes, huh? What were your dealbreakers, back in the day? (Or today, if you’re still dating?)