32 Years!

July 3, 2025 /

Happy Anniversary to us! It feels unreal to me that we’ve been married 32 years now, that we’ve been together for over 37 years. I look at our wedding pictures, and goodness, we look young. I was 27 the year we got married, which didn’t feel particularly young at the time, but does to me now.

Ted took the week off from work, and I have both today and tomorrow as company holidays this year, so we won’t have to go to work. What will we do with ourselves? We have tickets to go to one of the fine art museums, which has an exhibit of photographs by Paul McCartney. Later, we have reservations for dinner at an old favorite in San Francisco, Bix. Maya does not have the day off, but she is going to join us for our celebratory dinner.

Ted brought me these lovely roses and lilies, I suspect the house is going to smell really nice pretty soon.

The thing about a long term relationship is that you have good times and bad, and times that feel like a test, and times that are a reward for passing the test. When I ask myself, would I do it again? Would I choose Ted to share this life with? And my answer is always, always, Yes.

34 Comments

  • NGS

    July 3, 2025 at 7:57 am

    Happy anniversary! I was 26, Dr. BB was 27 (by three days) when we got married and all my friends had been married for years at that point and kept referring to me as an “older bride” and now I just laugh about it. We were so young! Here’s to many more special days together!

  • nance

    July 3, 2025 at 11:47 am

    Happy Anniversary to you both. You and Dr. Ted look beautiful, and your smiles have not dimmed in the least. It’s obvious you both chose well and your marriage is a good one.

    Rick was one week shy of his 22nd birthday when we got married, and I had been 22 for only 2 and a half months. Talk about young! If Sam or Jared had told me at that age that they were getting married, I’d have flipped.

    Enjoy your time off together. (I know you will.(

  • Nicole MacPherson

    July 3, 2025 at 11:52 am

    Happy anniversary!
    I was also 27 when we got married, which felt about average at the time. and now I think “I was a baby!” But of course it didn’t feel that way then.

  • Suzanne

    July 3, 2025 at 1:46 pm

    Oh my goodness you two are so cute! Happy anniversary!

    I was also 27 when I got married and I felt so old! Some of my high school friends had been married for AGES by then. It’s funny how drastically time can change your perspective.

    • J

      July 6, 2025 at 6:43 am

      Thanks Suzanne. 🙂 Looking back at my friends, a few had been married already, one was divorced already, some were still single…but yeah, there were couples who got married right out of high school, which seemed crazy too.

  • Margaret

    July 3, 2025 at 4:27 pm

    Marriage is, as the saying goes, like a test you didn’t study for. Really, we can’t study for it. We have to take events as they come and deal with them the best we can. Happy Anniversary! You were and are a lovely couple. The roses are beautiful; hope they hold up well. Mine never do. 🙁

  • K @ TS

    July 3, 2025 at 9:10 pm

    Happy Anniversary! Those photos are great! You do look young, and tres chic! That was brave of you guys to get married on a holiday week; I can also now always remember your anniversary as it is my Mom’s birthday. Have a great time at dinner! I have never tried that restaurant, I can’t wait to see what you got!

    • J

      July 6, 2025 at 6:46 am

      We didn’t take any pictures of our food. Hmmm. I had a lobster spaghetti that was delicious, and Ted had roast duck. Maya had a crab puff appetizer and a roasted sweet potato, and we all shared oysters and Caesar salad. It was delicious. It’s a fun restaurant in that you feel fancy going there, like an old time supper club.

      One nice thing about our anniversary is we always have the next day off! Happy birthday to your mom!

  • coco

    July 4, 2025 at 12:41 am

    happy anniversary! that’s a long time to be married and well said about marriage, as any relationship, it has up and down. Let go when it’s down, enjoy when it’s up, and know it will continue this way.
    You look soooo happy in those pic.

  • Kat

    July 4, 2025 at 9:23 am

    Happy anniversary. The photos of your wedding day(s) are beautiful. I got married recently for the first time at 42 (and 47 for my husband… we met 2.5 yrs ago) … suffice it to say we *really* were not particularly young, haha. I think it’s a gift to get an “earlier start” tbh! Enjoy and congrats again.

    • J

      July 4, 2025 at 9:32 am

      Thank you Kat! Yes, it’s a gift to get an earlier start, but a different gift to really know yourself before marrying. We met when we were 21 and 22, so pretty young. Also, congratulations on your marriage!

  • San

    July 5, 2025 at 10:50 am

    32 years!!! Congratulations Julie and Ted! Wow, and look at you with your chic hat and short wedding outfit. So different from what is “in” now… you looked beautiful in both your wedding pictures. I love that you had an Indian wedding as well. It’s always interesting when two different cultures combine! 🙂

    • J

      July 6, 2025 at 6:48 am

      I’m not sure a chic suit was ‘in’ then either, actually. But I liked this dress a lot, and since I didn’t walk down the aisle, a long traditional dress did’t really speak to me. The shoulder pads though, are crazy! SO early 90s!

  • San

    July 5, 2025 at 10:51 am

    Oh, and I forgot to say… your last paragraph is spot on! Long-term relationships have their ups and downs and challenging times but to come out together on the other end is the real reward! <3

  • Ernie

    July 6, 2025 at 6:28 am

    Happy anniversary. Wow, 32 years. Congrats. Coach and I will celebrate 29 in August. What you said is so true, ups and downs and sticking with it and I am in the same spot – Can’t imagine going thru life with anyone else. Love these photos.

  • Daria

    July 18, 2025 at 8:44 pm

    Happy anniversary!! I love what you said about marriage- it’s so true. Tony and I have 15 years together and 13 married. For me it’s picking your battles, and always, always having a sense of humor!

    • J

      July 19, 2025 at 8:06 pm

      I think a sense of humor is crucial, and I will admit that sometimes I lose mine. Good reminder, thank you!